Conversations Journal Blog: February Guest Post

20 02 2012

This month, I wrote for the Conversations Journey blog about what we learn from children. I shared some thoughts about what I learned in my spiritual direction training about blessing our sons, beginning with when they were small children. I also share the blessings we still give them, even though they are now teens. You can read my guest post at the link below:

Blessing Children

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Conversations Journal Blog: January Guest Post

17 01 2012

This month, I wrote in response to the theme, “Lectio Your Life.” We were invited to reflect on 2011 to discern what were the key milestones and insights along the way. I wrote on my addressing of some areas of fear. You can read my guest post at the link below:

Fear Not

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Dealing with Stray Thoughts

13 01 2012

What do I do with anxious, lustful or other unwelcome thoughts that surface when I’m praying, or worshiping, or somehow trying to offer God my attention?

In Listening at Prayer (p. 78), Benedict Groeschel suggests that “By allowing the real issues of the interior life–our emotions, needs, conflicts, joys, and sorrows–to surface in His presence we may be able to make our Savior’s words operative in our own lives.” He reminds me of that as I “try to grasp one of these thoughts and look at it in the presence of Christ who seeks my sanctification more than I can ever imagine (77).”

He offers the specific illustration of fear: “Perhaps the distracting thought is a fear that has been troubling me. Silently I present it to my Savior, who overcame the fear of the Cross. I share my fear with him in silence…. In ways that human words are not able to express He reminds me that He once lived in this world, that He experienced these things Himself, or saw His friends and disciples struggle with them.”

Jesus, do you really understand my fears? Will you enable me to live above them in the powerful love of the Father that overcomes fear? I cannot overcome these deep struggles and conflicts alone. Only You can help me overcome them. As I am silent now in Your presence, I feel those fears rising above the surface before You. May I feel Your acceptance, Your forgiveness, Your empowering now.

When you encountered strangers, You saw them through eyes of love. Love empowered you to give something to the strangers you met. May I find the same resource operating in me. May Your love replace my fears and worries. There are still many places where there is much too much of me and not enough of You, Jesus.

I’m never more bold and courageous than when I remembering deeply that You are with me and for me. To Joshua You said, “Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be terrified; do not be discouraged, for the Lord your God will be with you wherever you go (1:9).” The only way that I can obey a command to “not be afraid” is by reflecting on and remembering the reality of Who God is and that He is actually with me. He has graciously come to my side. He is seeking my good and my progress. He desires to make me the best person I can be for His praise.

Thank You, Father. When I am afraid, it is a sure sign that there are some ways that I have failed to fully comprehend the reality of Your gracious presence with me. Help me to become more and more aware that You truly are with me. I am never alone. You are always with me. I do not need to fear because fear is not reflective of reality.

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Overcoming Fear Through Trust

14 11 2011

Psalm 56:3-4 NIV
When I am afraid, I put my trust in you.
In God, whose word I praise—

in God I trust and am not afraid.

What can mere mortals do to me?

When I am afraid. I find myself afraid in many ways. I’m afraid to fail in writing the book I’m supposed to be writing. I’m afraid of looking dumb. What do I do when I’m afraid? Sometimes I distract myself. Sometimes I procrastinate. Sometimes I hide. Does it work? Not really. The fear doesn’t go away. What does David do?

I put my trust in You. Instead of hiding, escaping, or numbing, David puts his trust in God. If I learn to look past my distorted image of God that looks suspiciously like certain authorities figures in my life on a bad day, I can see that He really is faithful—more faithful than I can imagine. If I think about how easy it often is to trust Gem when I see her honesty, sincerity and lack of guile, how much more should I be able to trust God who will never let me down, neither willfully or ‘accidentally’? What helps me to rest trustingly in God more?

In God, whose word I praise—God always says what He means and always means what He says. He doesn’t waste words. I praise His word because it is true, right, good, merciful, kind and words like this could just keep piling up. When I feel it hard to connect with something in scripture because it doesn’t feel real to me, that says very little about the quality of what God says. It probably says much more about my own ability to receive or perceive the goodness of what He says. Father, Your word is most worthy of praise.

In God I trust and am not afraid. I want to learn how to do what David does here. I want to so trust in You, Lord, that I am no longer paralyzed, immobilized or hindered by fears. There is a kind of inward hurry that prevents me from sinking down and soaking in the peace and rest of God into my heart and mind. God, You really are completely trustworthy. You are not holding the failures and transgressions of my past against me. You do not desire to keep a record of wrongs between You and me. You desired to remove them, and so You sent Your Son to make this justly possible. You did it the right way. You didn’t pretend there was nothing wrong with me. You addressed the wrong in me righteously and rightly.

What can mere mortals do to me? I hear in this that the harm fear causes me to imagine is always greater than reality. What harm is actually going to happen? I remember someone once saying that fear is actually a doorway into a deeper experience of God and His love. It just doesn’t look like that from this side!

Interact:

  • What are some of the fears you are currently facing?
  • What is the harm you imagine?
  • How might God be inviting you to step right through that fear into a place of deeper surrender and communion with Him?




Facing My Fears with God

6 10 2011

(An edited journal excerpt from May 1991)

This afternoon, I asked Gem whether she might like to go out to dinner tonight. Since she said, “Yes,” I needed to call and make a reservation. For whatever reason, I don’t like making calls like this. I don’t like making requests of strangers. I somehow feel like I’ve given them power over me. I have some weird fears.

Brother David Steindl-Rast offers some simple counsel:

“Maybe we should, now and then, make a list of our fears—all of them. Of course there will be many reasonable fears among them, legitimate fears; we’ll leave those alone. And when in doubt, let’s give ourselves the benefit of the doubt. Let’s assume that our fears are reasonable and legitimate, unless the contrary is pretty obvious. There will still be enough unreasonable fears left on our list. We may be sure of that…. We pick…one out from our list. For once we do what we fear, and we see that the fear was unfounded. Not only do we survive what we unreasonably feared, but the experience lifts us onto a new and unsuspected level of aliveness. As often as we try this out, we find it to be true” (Steindl-Rast, Brother David. Gratefulness: The Heart of Prayer. New York: Paulist Press, 1984, p. 118-19.)

So unless there is some real danger in what I fear, I take the risk of acting on what I fear. I call the stranger. I ask for help. I risk relationship. May Your faithful, persistent, tender love deepen my awareness of Your awesome power and mighty majesty. If You are with me, what do I have do really fear?

Question: What fear has most recently sought to intimidate you? How might you lean into it and find freedom on the other side?

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Love Swallows Little Fears

13 04 2011

Psalm 111:10 NLT
“Fear of the Lord is the foundation of true wisdom.
All who obey his commandments will grow in wisdom.
Praise him forever!

I am unwise when I live in fear of anyone or anything other than the Lord. I have learned this lesson in so many hard ways as I have allowed fear of a bad opinion or even a simple “No” from another to hinder and paralyze me from doing what I want and need to do.

Wisdom is lived knowledge and the discernment that this bears. I come to understand how the world really works when I deeply recognize that God’s power is first and final. This is illustrated in my life when I do things the way God says works best, rather than trying my own way and being continually surprised at the negative results.

All of this inspires praise. God, You have been, You are, and You forever will be worthy of every praise. I am grateful for Your hand of blessing in my life so far.

My prayer today is that I would have eyes open to Your mighty and nurturing presence through this day. Help me to notice the good things thy You are preparing for me through the day. Help me to obey You rather than obeying my fears. Amen.

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Overcoming Fear (2 Timothy 1:7)

28 01 2011

(An edited journal excerpt from July 12, 1990)

Thinking about my own struggle with fear and relationships with people, I took some times with 2 Timothy 1:7, “For God did not give us a spirit of timidity, but a spirit of power, of love and of self-discipline.” These three descriptions of the spirit that God has given help me understand my reasons for fear:

Power. When I fear, I feel helpless or powerless. I feel out of control. I need to realize that in Christ I have great power to overcome what threatens me. I am not powerless!

Love. John in his first epistle reminds us that “there is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear, because fear has to do with punishment. The one who fears is not made perfect in love.” The spirit God has given us is one of perfect love. If I dwell in that love, there is no place for fear to dwell in me–except the command to fear the LORD. Knowing that the Almighty LORD is my tenderly caring Daddy alleviates my fears.

Self-discipline. Fear doesn’t go away automatically. The NKJV translates this word as “sound mind.” Fear has everything to do with what I allow myself to think about. Fear is an issue of whether or not my mind is set on the truth, or on lies. When I fear a contact with a stranger, I have dwelled on a lie, “It is terrible to talk with a stranger. This stranger is going to hurt me, or mock me, or ignore me…and that would be terrible.” The truth is, “If God is for me, who can [really] be against me?” I need to “take every thought captive to the obedience of Christ,” comparing my thoughts with God’s perfect word. I must not let my mind dwell on what is false or deceptive!





Advent Thought: God-Empowered Ministry

13 12 2010

 

A home in La Cienaga, Dominican Republic near where I preached in November

(An edited excerpt from my journal of March 20, 1990…my 29th birthday)

Luke 1:72-73, Zechariah recognizes that Jesus will be one who God uses “to show mercy to our father and to remember his holy covenant, the oath he swore to our father Abraham: to rescue us from the hand of our enemies, and to enable us to serve him without fear in holiness and righteousness before him all our days.” It is this last line that stirs me as to the ministry God has given me.

God enables me to serve 1) without fear 2) in holiness and righteousness 3) before him 4) all our days.

“Without fear.” Fear increases whenever I begin to trust in myself. When I recognize the immensity of the task and the weakness in me without a vision of “God with me”, fear grows.  When I am trusting in “little me” to tackle the great task, I feel overwhelmed. God invites me to place that immense task next to His infinite power and there find confident strength and rest. I grow confident of His empowering and guiding presence.

“In holiness and righteousness.” I am often tempted to see ministry as first about my activity. This phrase points to the critical nature of character. Ministry is more than a God “to do” list. Ministry is an expression of the compassion and activity of God in and through me. When it is indeed God at work through me, the character of my work will be enriched with patience, kindness and gentleness—fruits of His Spirit in me.

“Before him.” Not only is ministry rooted in godly character, but all of that occurs “before Him”—in His presence. Ministry, like character, is a fruit of communion with Him. My service begins in the place of conversational relationship with God.  Ministry isn’t a distant “working for God”, but an intimate “working with God.” Am I tempted to see service as activity first, rather than first a relationship with Him on behalf of others? Paul calls himself and his colleagues “God’s fellow workers” (1 Corinthians 3:9).

“All our days.” Ministry is a lifelong working with God, not just an impressive sprint followed by inactivity. Ministry is a long-distance race, run in concert with the Spirit of God. How do we find the endurance to continue the journey of serving God and His purposes? It is as we learn to serve in the presence of Love that casts out fear, in growing union with God’s own character and in continuing communion with Him. May courage, holiness and communion sustain me in the life and work You’ve given me.

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Classic Prayers: Twentieth Century

7 07 2010

A prayer for undaunted faith by E. Stanley Jones (1884-1973), Methodist missionary to India and theologian:

“O Christ of the undaunted faith, give me Your quiet confidence and courage. May I not hold my faith; may it hold me–hold me when everything else is gone. Stamp this courage into my flesh and blood and nerve tissue–into me till I shall never again be afraid of anything, because I shall want only You. Amen.”

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Classic Prayers: Twentieth Century

5 07 2010

Here is another prayer from A. W. Tozer (paraphrased for contemporary language):

“Father, I want to know You, but my cowardly heart fears to give up its toys. I cannot part with them without inward bleeding, and I do not try to hide from You the terror of the parting. I come trembling, but I do come. Please root from my heart all those things which I have cherished so long and which have become a very part of my living self, so that You may enter and dwell there without a rival. Then You will make the place of Your feet glorious. Then my heart will have no need of the sun to shine in it, for You Yourself will be it’s light, and there will be no night there.

In Jesus name.

Amen.

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